Are you feeling unsafe or insecure?
We worry for our safety when we have lost or are
at risk of losing something. Also when we are in situations facing
physical and emotional danger.
Our sense of security is often dependent on
something or someone. However, prolonged or ingrained insecurity can be
based often on events that occurred in childhood or in previous years
which we have never truly dealt with.
Physical abuse, bullying, being bullied and
worried about the lengths which it may go to; being worried about threats
to yourself physically. Includes sexual abuse.
It is important to remove yourself from the threat
of physical danger as soon as it starts. If you are just being threatened
it is important that you remove yourself from the situation before it goes
to far. If this is a workplace issue; you could try approaching your
senior staff members. If this is a family issue, you should confide in
other family members and/or notify the correct authorities.
Nothing is more important than your own physical
safety. Regardless of all other self-imposed restrictions, it is important
to feel physically safe.
For example; loss of a loved one and the
implications of; fear of losing someone you love, believing in the words
of a bully, or constantly putting yourself down.
Emotional insecurity can be based on many
different things. It is important to try to clarify exactly what you feel
If your insecurity is within yourself, rather than
feeling insecure about a partner or loved one, it can be worthwhile
thinking back to a time that you didn't feel insecure. Then ask yourself
what happened, what changed in your life which has made you feel insecure.
This may have been loss of a job, a relationship, absorbed comments from
people you cared for, influence of parents/siblings/friends/colleagues.
Material/ Financial Security
For example; being at risk of losing your job,
having lost your job, being in financial difficulty, at risk of losing
your home or being unable to provide for your family, or yourself.
Material and Financial insecurity can freeze us up
inside. Not knowing where to turn or what to do for the best. Lack of
insurance or nest egg can truly put fear into you. The most important
thing is to take some time to clearly think about all the possible options
available to you; including the things you don't like or want. Try to
remove the fear by building yourself a clear picture of what IS available,
even if it means a change of lifestyle or career.
If your problem is financial, it's important to
know what you need, and what help may be available to you. Very often
people are not fully aware of financial assistance that is available,
simply because it has never been needed. Free legal advice is available
from the Citizens Advice Bureau (UK). If you have debt, DO contact the
companies you owe money to and ask them for advice.
If your problem is your job, you may find this
could be the launch pad you need to do something you have always wanted to
do; to go back to school or even just find employment with a better
company. Be optimistic. Change is scary, but often works out for the best.
Running the risk of losing something
As above with emotional and material items, not knowing if there is
trouble ahead or fearing trouble, expecting trouble.
We are afraid when we are not fully informed, or when our ingrained
issues cause us to think from an irrational perspective. More often than
not; we don't realise that we are being irrational or that we do not have
all the information. For this reason it is important to seek out someone
to talk to.