Does suspicion breed insecurity or
In most cases it brings insecurity. As we feel
uneasy when we are suspicious of things.
others it brings hope, yet it is easy to then create expectations which
can then be dashed.
When you suspect
things/something, it means you have no facts to base things on.
Suspicion has that element of doubt, which needs
to be unveiled before we can find peace. So we then find ways of seeking
out the truth. We don't always look to the easiest ways of doing this;
instead we turn to digging, spying, checking up, trying to catch the
suspects out. We start to manipulate situations to get the answers we
want, or even to prevent what we suspect is going to happen, from
Suspicion or Intuition
Suspicion arises when we feel or think that
something is not as we have been told. Or that something is not as we are
Most of the time, our suspicions are raised when
we are aware that actions are not tallying with what we are told. We
sometimes call this intuition. That nagging voice within us which is
telling us something isn't quite right.
We should always trust our intuition over what we
are being told. Not always because what YOU suspect is true IS true, but
often too it is a sign that we want things to be different somehow; but
are ignoring it.
Does suspicion bring more confusion to
an already instable base?
Yes. For the very fact you suspect
someone has done something, means that you don't trust them as you once
If you already have an instable base,
suspicion rocks these foundations even further. Suspicion causes more
confusion as we start to look for things which are not there. This can
cause anxiety, depression, low self worth, ignorance/tunnel vision and can
make you feel irritable and frustrated.
When you are stable, yet you do not
believe what you are told... it causes that stability to 'wobble',
regardless of whether or not it is the truth, if you have no trust in what
you see... there is no point in whatever is said or done...
without trust, there is instability.
If you are unstable, and do not believe what you are told... it takes away
even the fragile base on which you are stood. There is no
Questions or Answers
Does it bring rise to answers, or more
More questions. Because you still don't have facts.
Every new piece of evidence just makes you have even more suspicion. Even
when someone is
lying to you, you start to question WHY they are lying to you.
Does it matter WHAT you are told if
you already have an answer in your mind, so that if you are told the
truth.. you spend your time trying to prove it is a lie?
Sometimes we suspect people of doing things because we ourselves have
insecurities and doubts within established situations. If we have
pre-conceived ideas that our best friend was being two faced, you then
start poking around trying to uncover the truth, to the detriment of your
If it turns out the person you have placed in the
'suspect' rule turns out to be totally innocent, you still
harbour negative thoughts towards them. These negative thoughts have
arisen in you because YOU are not completely happy in the situation which
you are in.
You should look at WHY you felt reason to 'suspect'; what is it that
you are not happy with; do you have a negative view of yourself? do you
not feel worthy? are you dependent?, are you afraid of something?
If yes, to any of those; your negative aspects of yourself are
interfering with your personal relationships.
If you place someone innocent under suspicion, it puts them in a difficult
position. That nothing they can say or do will help you to feel any
better. Putting pressure on someone and slamming down evidence or argument
and manipulating situations can be tiresome for ALL involved. So, do try
to approach things in a calm gentle manner, use your
integrity and also; if things are
heating up. Do not be afraid to walk away until things can be
re-approached in a calmer manner.
If the issue is NOT coming from you (as in your suspicions are not
based on personal inadequacies, limitations and fear), then there are a
few things you can do to help remove suspicion and find the truth.
Don't be afraid to ask outright, to those concerned. Do so; without
blame. So instead of saying 'Oi, are you doing
this? Huh Huh Huh?' Try a more gentle approach, for example 'I was
wondering if you ____________ because ________ and I'm feeling unsettled
because of ____________.
Actions speak louder than words; so if someone says something and does
something completely different, you should then go back and ask them why.
Getting/Not Getting the truth.
If you are given an answer and still feel unsettled and suspicious, it may
be that the other person involved is either protecting themselves or you.
It is important to then say 'If you are trying to protect me, please don't
as I DO feel suspicious and I feel the truth is better than feeling like
You may not really WANT to hear the truth, but knowing the truth will
prevent prolonged agony for you and other people involved.
On the flip side; if they are telling the truth; you need to look at
your personal relationship with them. You do not trust them, when they are
worthy of trust.
If someone is lying to you, then you must understand they do so, to try to
protect you - or themselves. Regardless, someone who lies, needs help of
some kind, to find balance and acceptance in the area which they lie
about, a thief for example requires what they stole, to lie to another
person, means there is an issue within the liar which needs
reconciliation. To lie to yourself, means you are denying yourself YOUR
Further information on lies and lying at
Lies and Lying and
Hiding how you feel/Hiding the truth
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