We feel anxious
when we look ahead to something.
We feel anxious because we have our own
little expectations about what will occur, or because we have no idea about
what lies ahead of us and as such we start getting worked up about things.
What makes us anxious?
Fear of something we know we have
- Shock, being unprepared for something
- Over concern for other people.
- Lack of control
- Waiting or wanting something
Overcoming anxiety is about
approaching things in a calm and relaxed state.
Often we find achieving a relaxed
state incomprehensible, because our anxiety is controlling us.
allowing our anxiety to control our behaviour.
We are allowing our anxiety
to keep us in a frozen or churned up state of mind.
Come back to NOW.
Tomorrow is still going to happen
whether you worry about it or not.
Come back to NOW.
Tomorrow will not work out as you
No matter how many scenarios you play back through your head,
you can guarantee something different will happen.
- Stop focusing on yesterday.
- Stop focusing on
- Think about NOW.
- Give now all that matters, because it is NOW that
Drop any expectations...
Don't expect things, because
then you'll get anxious over the thought of not getting what you want.
If you are anxious because you have no idea what
will happen, then do some research, call a friend, type in a search string
You can almost guarantee that someone somewhere will have been in
a similar position as you. Take a look on discussion boards, read about
other peoples experiences and be prepared.
Try to find a calm state of mind;
and if you need to replay situations in your head; be sure you can
approach any outcome with calm and peace of mind. Whatever happens, will
happen for the best - even though it may not appear so at the time.
Anxiety is also formed through fears. Regain your
control, drop the fears (see
letting go), the anxiety will be replaced by a feeling of being
informed, a feeling of being clear.
Anxiety is formed through fears.
Why are you feeling anxious?
- do you feel you may not be
capable of doing something?
- are you worrying about having everything
in one place?
- why are you worried things will go wrong
Finding your own sense of calm will
be a personal experience. No one else can do it for you. Small steps are
often the best way to start.
- Take long, slow, deep breaths. In
through your nose and out through your mouth.
- Remember that you will look back in a few days and
know there was nothing to worry about, so save yourself the trouble of
worrying now... So look on the calendar or in your diary - a few days
ahead and know that in a few days. That which is making you feel anxious
will be 'over'.
- Remember that things will happen whether you worry or
- Everything always works out well in the
end. Even if we can not always see it at the time.
- Other people will make their own choices.
- Seek advice and information
- Relinquish the need to control and start
- Be informed.
- Make lists.
- Be prepared.
Physical Effects of Anxiety
Have you ever felt anxious to the
point of having to make constant toilet trips, feeling stomach aches,
having excess gas etc?
In an energetic form, Anxiety effects our
sacral chakra. Thus, anxiety
even in a mild form can have physical effects in this region.
Anxiety is based on a dependency, restriction,
and a general feeling of not being in control. This makes us
susceptible to PMT, Urinary issues (even just the feeling of needing to go
to the loo more frequently) and lower back ache.
Prolonged anxiety attacks
could lead to more serious problems such as IBS, Endometriosis, Testicular
Disease, Ovarian Cysts and Prostatic Disease.
Therapy for Anxiety
Many people whom suffer from Anxiety and
Anxiety attacks may find the following activities worthwhile. They will
aid your breathing techniques and help you to find a sense of calm.
Classes are carried out in most
locations, to find classes and centres that can teach you meditation,
pilates, tai chi and yoga, please click
Alternatively you can purchase books, cds
and dvds that can help to teach you the basics. Please note that you will
get most benefit from a professional, as they will be able to correct your
mistakes and won't push you further than you can manage.
Scents for calming anxiety include:- Neroli,
bergamot, frankincense, geranium, lavender, sandalwood, orange.
Seeking a professional aromatherapist
is always a good idea.
The following types of therapy may help you overcome
The professional guidance of a trainer counsellor or
psychotherapist can help you to work through the core issues which are
causing your anxiety, in a relaxed and friendly manner.
Massage can help you to relax, thus will lower your
anxiety levels. Although it may not treat the anxiety at the core, it will
certainly have an uplifting effect on your self.
Hypnotherapy can also help you work through your core
issues in regards to Anxiety.
If this issue is effecting your
emotional well-being or your day to day life you may benefit from counselling and therapy.
Counselling should not be seen as a last resort, it is a fantastic way to
talk through the things that are bothering you with someone impartial. Seeking counselling at
the early stages can dramatically improve your emotional confidence.
For counselling and therapists in the
please see our